When I was a young man, I bought into the worldly idea that a man is measured by his sexual activity. And so, intimacy with a woman was more of a conquest for me than the God ordained blessing that God had given to a man and woman in the covenant of marriage.

The result of this view is that, by the time I was 21, I had fathered 3 children. And, in every case, I paid doctors to end their precious lives – and I didn’t even realize that it was wrong. After all, we live in a great nation. A nation I still believe is great. A nation where you grow up believing that the laws define for us what is right and what is wrong. And the abortion was legal, so it must have been right. And it was so convenient for me to just believe that my unborn children were just blobs of tissue. But the thing that convicts my heart is that, frankly, I believed that those pregnancies were not my responsibility. After all it was the woman’s job to keep from getting pregnant, right? In fact, I felt that I was doing the manly thing by taking care of the problem and paying for the abortion.

How short I fell from the biblical understanding of manhood given to us in Ephesians 5 for a man to cherish and protect a woman’s purity before the Lord. That is who I was. But by the grace of God lavished upon me in the Lord Jesus Christ and the work of the Holy Spirit in me, that is no longer who I am. The Lord has shown me that those children were not just the children of those women, but those children are my children. And as their father it was my responsibility to protect them, not to kill them — and to protect the mothers of my unborn children from the burden of abortion. My three aborted children were created in the image of God and they are precious to God, and by God’s grace, they have become precious to me.

In surveys of post-abortive women, they are often asked what would be the one thing that would help you to choose life, would have caused you to choose life? And over and over, consistently the number one answer is the support of a man to help them make that choice. Especially the father of the baby, or even their own father. I regret that I was not the man that God called me to be in that time; that I chose to end the life of my children. Because by God’s grace I have become a man since.

Men, my wife, and millions of women like her have born the burden of abortion all alone for far too long. For every mother of an aborted child, there is also a father. That is why, as a man, I will be silent about abortion no more.

I invite — I encourage the fathers of aborted children to stand along side the mothers of aborted children and BE SILENT NO MORE. God bless you all!


Testimony courtesy of Patrick & Silent No More


Look at the birds of the air; they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, yet your heavenly Father keeps feeding them. Are you not worth much more than they?


…Be strong, vigorous, and very courageous. Be not afraid, neither be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.


Before I formed you in the womb I knew and approved of you, and before you were born I separated and set you apart…


I praise you (Lord) because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body…
PSALM 139:14-16 NIV


Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.


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